What Happens To Your Kids When Something Happens to You?

Tom Misteli • September 5, 2025

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Life has a way of reminding us that the unexpected is never too far away. As parents, our number one priority is the well-being and security of our children.


We do everything we can to ensure they are safe and cared for – from installing baby gates when they’re toddlers to staying up late helping with homework as they grow older. But what would happen to your children if something were to happen to you?


It’s a difficult question, and not one most parents want to dwell on. But taking the time to plan for unexpected events is one of the most loving things you can do for your family. Estate planning is not just about money and property; it’s about peace of mind and protecting what matters most — your children.


In this post, we’ll explore why estate planning for unexpected events is so essential, what steps you can take to ensure your children are cared for, and how a few simple but powerful documents can provide lasting security for your family.


The “What If” Scenario Every Parent Thinks About

Imagine this scenario: You and your spouse are on a date night, and your kids are at home with a babysitter. While driving back, you’re involved in a serious accident. Who would know what to do? Who would step in immediately for your children, and who would be responsible for their long-term care?


These are hard questions, but they’re also a reality that many families overlook until it’s too late. We all want to believe that nothing will happen to us, but life doesn’t come with guarantees. Taking the time to create a child protection plan is the best way to ensure your children will be safe and secure, no matter what the future brings.


Why Planning for the Unexpected Matters

Most people assume that if something happened to them, a close family member would automatically step in to take care of their children. While that’s often the case, the process isn’t always smooth or immediate.


In Texas, if you haven’t designated a legal guardian, the courts will decide who will care for your children. While judges always strive to make decisions that are in the best interest of the child, they don’t know your family dynamics or your values. Without guidance, there can be confusion, disagreements, and even temporary foster care if no guardian is immediately available.


Estate planning for unexpected events helps you avoid these uncertainties. It allows you to decide who you trust to raise your children if you’re unable to do so, while also creating a roadmap for your family’s future.


Steps to Protect Your Children

The good news is that there are proactive ways to ensure your children are cared for, no matter what happens. Here are some key steps to consider when thinking about child protection and family security:


1. Choose Guardians You Trust

Selecting a guardian for your children is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. This is the person who will step in to raise your children if you’re no longer there.


When making this choice, think beyond who loves your children — consider who shares your values, parenting style, and vision for their future. It might be a sibling, a close friend, or another trusted family member.


A family in Dallas, for example, chose their best friends as guardians because they had similar parenting approaches and a close relationship with their kids. It was a decision that gave them tremendous peace of mind.


2. Make Temporary Plans

What if something happens to you while you’re out of town, and your chosen guardian lives hours away? In situations like this, having temporary guardians named can prevent your children from going into the care of strangers, even briefly.


Temporary guardians are people nearby who can step in right away until the permanent guardian is available. This simple step can save your kids from confusion and fear during a stressful time.


3. Plan for Financial Security

Raising children is expensive — from daycare and school supplies to college tuition down the road. Even if you’ve chosen the right guardian, it’s essential to ensure they have the resources needed to care for your children.


Many parents use life insurance or a trust to set aside money for their kids’ future needs. With the right planning, you can outline exactly how those funds are to be used — whether for education, healthcare, or everyday expenses.


4. Put It in Writing

A verbal agreement with a family member is not enough. To truly protect your children, your wishes need to be documented legally. This includes naming guardians in your will, creating financial protections like trusts, and designating who will manage any money or property on your children’s behalf.


Without written instructions, even the most well-intentioned family members could face legal challenges or disagreements.


5. Communicate Your Plan

Once you’ve made your decisions, share them with your loved ones. Talk to the people you’ve chosen as guardians to make sure they’re comfortable with the responsibility. It’s also helpful to let other family members know your plan to avoid confusion or disputes later.


The Peace of Mind Estate Planning Brings

Parents who take these steps often feel a huge weight lifted from their shoulders. One mom in Houston shared that once she and her husband finalized their guardianship documents and set up a trust, she “slept better at night knowing the kids would be okay, no matter what.”


That peace of mind is priceless. While no one likes to think about worst-case scenarios, planning ahead means your children will never be left vulnerable during an already difficult time.


Stories That Inspire Planning

Consider the story of the Anderson family from Austin. A few years ago, the parents were in a serious car accident. Thankfully, both survived, but they spent several weeks in the hospital. Because they had named a temporary guardian — a trusted neighbor — their children were cared for by someone they knew and loved instead of being placed with someone unfamiliar.


On the other hand, there are stories that remind us why planning is essential. In one case, two siblings spent months in foster care because no legal guardianship had been set up and extended family members disagreed over who should care for them. These are heartbreaking situations that can be avoided with just a bit of planning.


Planning Is About Love, Not Fear

At its heart, estate planning isn’t about dwelling on the negative. It’s about love. It’s about ensuring your children are surrounded by the right people, cared for in the way you want, and supported with the resources they need.


By taking proactive steps, you’re giving your children a gift — the gift of security and stability, even when life throws a curveball.


Ready to Start?

You don’t have to face these decisions alone. A trusted estate planning attorney can guide you through the process, answer your questions, and help you create a plan that feels right for your family.


If you’re a parent, now is the time to consider what would happen to your kids if something happened to you. It’s never too early to plan, and once you do, you’ll feel a deep sense of relief knowing you’ve taken care of what matters most.


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To learn more about creating your estate plan and Tom Misteli, visit www.mistelilaw.com.


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